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strix_albavia http://ift.tt/2fnsPqg:
Date who you want. The transphobic part is going up to trans people and expecting them to listen to your little speech and give you an official stamp of approval on it.
I don’t want you to date anyone you’re not attracted to, for any reason good or bad. I wouldn’t want to date anyone who’s not genuinely into me, squishy bits and all. But I’ve gotten a lot of asks like this and it’s frustrating. Why the hell do you need my “backing” to not date people who are sort of like me? You can just go right ahead and not do it.
But it feels humiliating to be asked to say, in so many words, “Oh yes, I totally get why you wouldn’t be attracted to people like me. Very natural feeling. Very common. Not agonizing at all for me to think about. Anything I can do to make it even more comfortable for you to be repelled by my genitals?”
Date who you want. The transphobic part is going up to trans people and expecting them to listen to your little speech and give you an official stamp of approval on it.
I don’t want you to date anyone you’re not attracted to, for any reason good or bad. I wouldn’t want to date anyone who’s not genuinely into me, squishy bits and all. But I’ve gotten a lot of asks like this and it’s frustrating. Why the hell do you need my “backing” to not date people who are sort of like me? You can just go right ahead and not do it.
But it feels humiliating to be asked to say, in so many words, “Oh yes, I totally get why you wouldn’t be attracted to people like me. Very natural feeling. Very common. Not agonizing at all for me to think about. Anything I can do to make it even more comfortable for you to be repelled by my genitals?”
